Military Spouse Stories

Thank You

We often don’t say how thankful we are for having our spouse’s home. Of course, there are times that we quickly get annoyed at the fact that there’s one more person we have to add to our to-do list for the day (am I right?), because if you must know, our spouses are more of a hassle than our kids (well, most of the time). If you’re reading this, and you agree, continue reading. For those who serve our country, thank you for keeping us safe. But also, thank you for everything you do for us. See, some of us spouses are not employed, but believe me when I say that we are so grateful to stay home to take care of the kids. The truth is, spouses, don’t get enough credit for what they do, let alone for everything they provide for us.
Let’s think about the crazy schedules they work. They have the 12 on and 12 off schedule, the “on call” schedule, the WTI schedule, the duty schedule, we have to stay at work for the hell of its schedule. By the time they’re home, they’re happy to be home, trust me. As much as the kids annoy them, or they come home to a mess, they are just glad to be home. Most of the time, they don’t ask much from us, but a hot plate on the table. Just like you, just like me, we’re often tired when they get home that we try to change roles right away. Just like them, we are tired, we’ve had a long day, hell, we have been sick all day. Not once does it cross our minds that they’ve probably had a tougher day than us? Ask yourself, what can you do to make your spouses evening better? Do you tend to ask how work was? Or ask him/her if there is anything you can do to help him out? Chances are, he probably wants to hang out with you, he’s happy to be home with his family. It’s a given that any man wants to come home to change out of those camis, eat, and relax.
Thanking your spouse for what they do every day isn’t often said as much as it should. A simple thank you will make their day. We often complain about how we have it worse than them, but do we? Just like any other military personnel, the last thing they want to talk about is work. Or maybe they’ve had a long day, and they need you to hear them out, they want to vent.
As a spouse, it’s important to keep track of how your husband/wife is feeling at the moment. Although we all go through different problems, never forget to ask how they’re doing, and if everything is okay. Respect one another and never let a straightforward argument bring the relationship down. Remember that above being married, you guys are best friends. Communication is the key to having a healthy marriage. Interact with one another, help each other out, look out after one another, and always trust each other. Remember, you ’re both a team. And together, you can accomplish so much. Teach your children what working as a team is all about. Always be there for each other in the good and bad times.
The military life is not easy; I don’t expect others to understand this life we live in. But your spouse understands you, your spouse is there for you, thank him/her, and always have that open communication that will help both of you continue to grow as a couple.