Military Spouse Stories

Thank You

We often don’t say how thankful we are for having our spouse’s home. Of course, there are times that we quickly get annoyed at the fact that there’s one more person we have to add to our to-do list for the day (am I right?), because if you must know, our spouses are more of a hassle than our kids (well, most of the time). If you’re reading this, and you agree, continue reading. For those who serve our country, thank you for keeping us safe. But also, thank you for everything you do for us. See, some of us spouses are not employed, but believe me when I say that we are so grateful to stay home to take care of the kids. The truth is, spouses, don’t get enough credit for what they do, let alone for everything they provide for us.
Let’s think about the crazy schedules they work. They have the 12 on and 12 off schedule, the “on call” schedule, the WTI schedule, the duty schedule, we have to stay at work for the hell of its schedule. By the time they’re home, they’re happy to be home, trust me. As much as the kids annoy them, or they come home to a mess, they are just glad to be home. Most of the time, they don’t ask much from us, but a hot plate on the table. Just like you, just like me, we’re often tired when they get home that we try to change roles right away. Just like them, we are tired, we’ve had a long day, hell, we have been sick all day. Not once does it cross our minds that they’ve probably had a tougher day than us? Ask yourself, what can you do to make your spouses evening better? Do you tend to ask how work was? Or ask him/her if there is anything you can do to help him out? Chances are, he probably wants to hang out with you, he’s happy to be home with his family. It’s a given that any man wants to come home to change out of those camis, eat, and relax.
Thanking your spouse for what they do every day isn’t often said as much as it should. A simple thank you will make their day. We often complain about how we have it worse than them, but do we? Just like any other military personnel, the last thing they want to talk about is work. Or maybe they’ve had a long day, and they need you to hear them out, they want to vent.
As a spouse, it’s important to keep track of how your husband/wife is feeling at the moment. Although we all go through different problems, never forget to ask how they’re doing, and if everything is okay. Respect one another and never let a straightforward argument bring the relationship down. Remember that above being married, you guys are best friends. Communication is the key to having a healthy marriage. Interact with one another, help each other out, look out after one another, and always trust each other. Remember, you ’re both a team. And together, you can accomplish so much. Teach your children what working as a team is all about. Always be there for each other in the good and bad times.
The military life is not easy; I don’t expect others to understand this life we live in. But your spouse understands you, your spouse is there for you, thank him/her, and always have that open communication that will help both of you continue to grow as a couple.

Lifestyle, Military Spouse Stories

A Letter to my Husband

Dear Husband,

Here we are ten years later, sitting on the couch, thinking about the crazy things we have done. From the day we met, I knew we would be more than just friends. A couple of pounds lighter, two immature kids who didn’t know what marriage was all about. I could have told you our life together would be full of adventure the minute we met. Cops were chasing, a night of laughter, turned into a serious commitment the next couple of weeks. You see, I never knew what the “military life” was all about. I didn’t quite understand what I was getting myself into. All I cared about was seeing you every weekend. Sometimes those weekends turned into weekdays. Driving to my house in your little red car was all I could see from my window. Getting off with your Vans shirt, jean shorts, and high top Vans made my knees weak, for I had never seen such a handsome guy in my life. You know, I had met other guys before, but none could compare to you. You were different, your manners were different, and that face, well being from the valley, you looked different. I didn’t quite understand how serious it was until you decided to plan a trip for us to Disneyland. Where you booked a hotel for the weekend so you and I could enjoy ourselves. However, that changed the minute you picked me up from my house that day. News that I didn’t know would change our lives forever. I was able to enjoy Disneyland thanks to you though. You made me feel safe; you protected me, I knew you wouldn’t let me down. Finding out I was expecting was a bit heartbreaking in the beginning not knowing what direction my life was heading. You made everything fall into place by telling me you would be there by my side every step of the day. It happened, and after the news broke, everything happened so fast. You see, many obstacles were thrown at the beginning of our relationship. Some people thought I was stupid, but I stood by your side every step of the way. I had faith in us because I knew we had a future together. It wasn’t for the fact that we had our first child together. It was because I loved you. Sometimes love makes you do stupid things, and sometimes it blinds you so utterly that you don’t see the challenges in it. We have overcome too many obstacles, lies, and challenges that we are now two adults who keep learning from each other’s mistakes. Our families have fought, our families have hit rock bottom, our mistakes have affected everyone, but we somehow come out stronger than before. We have achieved so much in so little time, look at what we have created, three handsome boys who respect us and look up to us. Children than depend on us to teach them the importance of life and success. Who knew we had all this going on for them? For the future of us? We have created all this in ten years. in ten years so much has happened. Between battles, challenges, mistakes, cries, and laughter. We are here; our kids are our future of this family. One day we will look back at all the stupid things we have said and done when we were younger and laughed at the crazy decisions we had made through the years. Because that’s what life is, it consists of life testing your relationship with the other person. When you think you have it all, you don’t. We are humans, but together as a couple, we can overcome anything. It’s a lot like a rollercoaster. There are twists and turns, and some of the hills are scary, but you stay on the ride just to feel the thrill of that fall again. There is no other person I would want to share this ride with. We have built so much together, we have been in it too long to call it quits for a stupid argument. I’m just glad we are able to enjoy our life now how we once picture it to be. Peaceful, understanding, and finally agreeing with one another when it comes to parenting. Together, forever, and ever. Growing old with you is what I want to do for the rest of my life. Hoping one day, our boys will find good women whom they will share the rest of their lives with. I’m in it for the long ride baby, because I am not going anywhere.

Always & Forever