Judging Others Does Not Define Who They Are, It Defines Who You Are

Talking ’bout your sex life

Love is such a beautiful word. But is love more than a four-letter word? Or does love involve emotions and behavior characterized by passion, intimacy, and commitment? Well, there are a million different ways to love somebody. But love may sometimes be followed by betrayal, lies, and jealousy. You see, life nowadays is not like old times.

In which people stuck together regardless of the circumstances. In today’s world, many men and women worldwide don’t like to put up with shit. LITERALLY. And that’s okay. Who’s to say any relationship, marriage, even friendship is perfect?

This post does not bash anyone but encourages you to stick to your beliefs and follow your intuition.


I’ve met couples in the past who have said they would never put up with shit. But is that true? You won’t know until and if something happens to you. Therefore, you can put yourself in someone’s shoes, but it doesn’t mean you’ll make that decision if you’re ever in a situation where you have to decide.

I often meet single people who crave being in a relationship. They want to be loved, they want to live their happily ever after, but often judge other couples who desire something else while being committed to someone else. The reality is, some people are in open relationships, and that’s okay.

Who are we to judge? And respectfully, if being open-minded about being in an open relationship is offensive to you. Then stop reading this blog. Why? Because I’m not here to praise anyone nor judge anyone. On the contrary, I’m making you aware of why people may look for other ways to spice up their love life.


According to healthline.com., open relationships are between two people in a relationship who have agreed to open up their relationship sexually but not romantically. You see, it took me a long time to fully grasp why some people do it. And to each their own, but maybe some people want to explore their sexuality and may want to spice up their sex life. Does that mean you don’t love your partner? Not. Don’t ever feel bad about wanting to try something new.


But the most frequent thing I hear is… Well, why are they married or together? Because they can, love each other, and sex shouldn’t define how you feel about another person. If your partner is okay with it and vice versa, then don’t ever feel bad. After all, you don’t owe anyone explanations.


We then have couples who have been through so much together, where there is infidelity, betrayal, and hurt. I’ve seen so many couples grow from it and come out stronger. However, it may require hours of therapy, trust, dates, and simply starting from scratch by getting to know each other again. Quite frankly, every couple is different, and again, no one should be the judge for what they do or don’t do to spice up their relationship or marriage.


But then you have the couples who are devoted, determined, trustworthy and tend to communicate very well. They are firm believers that love beats all, and you know what? I’m not even mad. Why? Because they’re not perfect, but they don’t need anyone or anything to keep that flame on. Some believe love is about two people and should be respected as is. There’s nothing wrong with that. On the contrary, very few committed couples/relationships exist nowadays.

So my advice to you. Do what makes you and your partner happy. Be respectful towards each other’s ideas and grow from it. Stay on the same page and encourage each other to learn from mistakes you’ve made in the past. At the end of the day, people will always have something to say. Because remember, there’s always someone out there that’s more perfect than you, kidding. But I do encourage to live your life and never left others rain on your parade.

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